Sunday, 11 September 2011

Let your partner be heard

When a partner tries to communicate a feeling and most men have the habit of suppressing the voice of the partner. When a man does this the partner learns to keep the things to herself which results in problems. When the matter comes to his knowledge from other source, mostly it is too late to make the things right.
Remember when a partner is telling you something she doesn't always want you to do something about it. Instead she just wants you to know the things and her feelings, she just wants to be heard. Being heard is a human need, so do not tell your partner that she is just a cry baby or a problematic person when she discusses her feelings or any matter with you. It might not only save your relation but also save you from an imminent problem.

Conflicts discussion can strengthen your relationship

Conflicts happen where there is love, care and concern for each other. There is a misconception that many people think that perfect soul mates don't fight so to avoid the conflict they end their path of communication leading to miscommunications and problems. Things can be very easy like abc when you discuss them and very tough if they are not discussed.

Thursday, 1 September 2011

Problem In A Relationship

May it be a husband wife relationship or sibling one, problems exists every where. But does that mean we should end the relationship and run out of it. No certainly not and this would be the answer of most of us in normal scenario. On the contrary when these situations prevail in our real life we tend to find our way out by running away from relationship even if the problem is with our parents, spouse, siblings or friends. We leave them and assume that the problem will be solved on its own. I personally don’t agree with it. Like non living things problems can not be solved on their own if you don’t discuss them and give them their due time to be solved. Running away in no solution to the problem in fact it will rather augment the problem.
Here are few relationship tips which you might want to try out:
  1. Stay in touch no matter how big the problem is.
  2. Try to find out the reason for the complaints of other person.
  3. Do not go into arguments as arguments will only worsen the problems.
  4. Find points you both agree on. Common grounds will give both people the feel that they are on the same side.
  5. Give each other a minute or two to speak out the problem without interrupting.
  6. Stay focused during discussions, do not go into other details which might bring up other disagreements.